tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post129600639391844609..comments2023-10-23T09:29:17.437-05:00Comments on Take 90 West: Unlike Ebony and Ivory, they do not live together in perfect harmonyLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10459382870257912689noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-31785270838816582022007-11-28T15:23:00.000-06:002007-11-28T15:23:00.000-06:00my girls are the same way, though my oldest is the...my girls are the same way, though my oldest is the choppy. fiona would be my younger daughter. i always thought it was a birth order thing. i guess not.Melissa Stoverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839619836478423452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-3462271202566953182007-11-28T15:03:00.000-06:002007-11-28T15:03:00.000-06:00My mom definitely labeled my sister and I early on...My mom definitely labeled my sister and I early on, and I think we both suffered from it, so even though it was just a dream, I think it is great that you are really thinking about the differences between your daughters and what kind of mom you are to them!Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10364198547392999899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-66873775075600912602007-11-28T14:29:00.000-06:002007-11-28T14:29:00.000-06:00Oh, I know this post so well..not just the specifi...Oh, I know this post so well..not just the specifics but the guilt and anxiety that comes through in your words. My two oldest are also very different...but the fact that we worry about it means we are trying to do...what? The best that we can do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-65494631606650789272007-11-28T10:30:00.000-06:002007-11-28T10:30:00.000-06:00I grew up in a family with 3 kids. I was the good ...I grew up in a family with 3 kids. I was the good one; actually, I am the "White Sheep" in my family. I don't know where or how I came from my household. <BR/><BR/>I always knew I was loved and I always knew I was a little different. I've always been ok with that because I've always been ok with me. <BR/><BR/>Love your girls. Teach them to be proud of themselves and to love themselves. You are doing a FINE FINE job! Just by reading your beautiful post, it is so obvious that you are already doing the things you need to do to raise loving children. They will learn by your example and they will learn that it is ok to be who they are inside. <BR/><BR/>I, too, have wondered if we are labeling are boys. Will - smart, but picky; Nathan - wild child, but accepting; Witt - the verdict's still out...<BR/><BR/>Just remember that everyone IS different - if we were all the same this here thing we call life would be boring! :)<BR/><BR/>You're doing great - go kiss the kids, tell them you love them and tell Fiona she's too young for boys! :)Becky @ BoysRuleMyLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11078001998434425784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-68831192949485064202007-11-28T08:50:00.000-06:002007-11-28T08:50:00.000-06:00My RaRa was Hannah Montana on tour in my dream a f...My RaRa was Hannah Montana on tour in my dream a few nights ago! It got me thinking too - she'll be nine soon and that means 10 next year and Jr high is on the horizon! <BR/><BR/>Lis- You have done a great job so far! They are all unique and different in their owns ways. I grew up with 3 brothers and the things that we did not agree on or like about each other when were younger were the exact things we had in common or appreciated in each other as teens and adults. As siblings you eventually find commom ground with all your siblings- and I know my parents have a different relationship with each of us kids. It all works out!Julhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11517174888061902746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-86243247094136546522007-11-28T08:43:00.000-06:002007-11-28T08:43:00.000-06:00Your post is beautiful. I am on only child and par...Your post is beautiful. I am on only child and parent of an only child so you kind of just blew my mind!! I have a wonderful friend who has 3 daughters ages 20-25. Growing up her girls were all so different. I remember her having the same fears about their relationships. Now they are very close. She recently said sometimes she feels left out of their group!! Perhaps their differences will be just the thing that brings them together later...how many first borns can handle a good friend that is just like them!?Queen Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16974305034774639237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-85612689880139496412007-11-28T07:32:00.001-06:002007-11-28T07:32:00.001-06:00Sounds like my two. I try not to over-think their...Sounds like my two. I try not to over-think their differences or compare them too much because I don't want to worry about how I'm parenting! I do enough of that without seeing the differences in my girls and wondering if they're because of me. Our kids will grow up in <I>spite</I> of their upbringing and all we can really do is what we think is best for each of them. We'll surely find out that some things we did were the wrong things, but they can still both grow up to be happy, healthy, and well-adjusted despite those parental errors.tammihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03803890115567631062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-71237067305598092562007-11-28T07:32:00.000-06:002007-11-28T07:32:00.000-06:00Love this post. Your girls will look back at this...Love this post. Your girls will look back at this one some day and laugh and say "that is totally me!". You're their mother you know them well, you may think you're labeling them, but it doesn't sound like you are, you are just adpating yourself and your way of thinking to their idividual personalities. How fun it will be to watch them grow into teenagers and adults!!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03959733357862376389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-86474685404362466862007-11-28T07:07:00.000-06:002007-11-28T07:07:00.000-06:00WOW. What an interesting, thought-provoking post!...WOW. What an interesting, thought-provoking post!<BR/><BR/>My two are very different as well. I recently had the feeling (and major guilt) that I wasn't giving my daughter enough credit academically, when we went in for her conference and heard that she is one of the top in her class -- given the struggles we have with homework, I thought she was having problems at school. I always think of my son as the "smart" one -- but they both are. He's just "outwardly" bright, but they are both smart in their own way -- and that's why I felt terrible about the whole school thing and not giving her enough credit for her intelligence. I think also, because he is so much "easier" personality wise (seriously, he is the happiest child ever), and she is moody and emotional, that it's harder to understand her sometimes, and she certainly frustrates me!<BR/><BR/>Ok, now I've written my own novel, really without a point, but you made me think about this more . . . thanks. :)<BR/><BR/>Don't worry about your dream. You'll have many, many more dreams about your girls that will have you puzzled in the morning -- but they are just dreams.snaphappyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12776147090960288953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-66427323624929200842007-11-28T07:04:00.000-06:002007-11-28T07:04:00.000-06:00Very interesting post. We have our three boys and ...Very interesting post. We have our three boys and one girl; it is amazing how different their personalities can be. I really regret the fact that our daughter will never know what it's like to have a sister. Your girls may be total opposites and bicker at times right now, but, I'm sure as they get older they will become great friends.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362541400510447208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-31942311932285512092007-11-28T02:50:00.000-06:002007-11-28T02:50:00.000-06:00This post is just beautiful, Lisa. I don't know yo...This post is just beautiful, Lisa. I don't know your girls, but I feel like I do now. (And Fiona = Christopher. It's almost spooky).<BR/><BR/>Isn't it amazing how girls so close in age can be so different? It boggles the mind :)<BR/><BR/>I sometimes feel like I've labelled my children to a certain degree and now they are paying for it a little bit. <BR/><BR/>I see B boy as more generous, kinder and more sensitive than C, and sometimes I know he gets away with things I would never let C do. Just because he is more sensitive and needs more support. At least in my mind - but who really knows...?<BR/><BR/>It's all part of the joys of parenting. I do like having kids that are so different - and I can't wait to see how they grow up. I am sure you feel the same way. Except for that kiss, maybe?!<BR/><BR/>Heidi :)Family Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-63885514555252427882007-11-28T00:41:00.000-06:002007-11-28T00:41:00.000-06:00Your thinking too much! Just love them and raise ...Your thinking too much! Just love them and raise them as you have, they will continue to be different and need differently and you are the mom "chosen" for these children you are what they need! Just a dream.chrissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12573324249906837462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5226285797342408422.post-64479289374584576492007-11-27T23:44:00.000-06:002007-11-27T23:44:00.000-06:00it's interesting isn't it, these family dynamics? ...it's interesting isn't it, these family dynamics? My kids are all very different - my 1st 3 in particular - so different - but they learn, as they see you love the individually, to love and accept these differences in each other- sure they may not have been "friends" under different circumstances - but because they are family - they will learn to love, get along, and even call each other friends. you'll see.Pedalinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13994292348608214093noreply@blogger.com